From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide to Self-Love with a Stoma

From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide to Self-Love with a Stoma

You’re not alone in feeling that adjusting to life with a stoma is a BIG change. It’s far from straightforward, emotions like relief, self-consciousness, and everything in between are all part of the process. This path toward self-love and acceptance isn’t linear, and everyone moves at their own pace in coming to terms with their stoma. That’s why I’ve put together some practical tips to help you feel more comfortable in your own skin if you’re finding it tough to accept this new part of yourself.

Take it one day at a time

Whether your stoma surgery was planned or an emergency, it’s going to take time to fully adjust. I had three months to prepare, but even then, seeing my stoma and my new body for the first time wasn’t easy. Remember to celebrate the small wins—whether it’s trying a new food, having a positive day, or finding a comfortable outfit that makes you feel good. Each day will get a little easier as you learn to live with and accept your body. Be kind to yourself; just because your stoma saved your life doesn’t mean you won’t have tough days. The key is to let the good days outweigh the bad ones.

Build your body confidence up

You can take little steps to help you feel more confident and more like yourself. It might be something as simple as choosing what to wear. It might be wearing something loose fitting or high waisted, overtime you’ll find out what makes you feel like the best version of yourself. Part of building your confidence is having the confidence in your stoma bag products. It can take a while to find the best products for you but once you do, you will feel more secure in what you wear. The two best products I couldn’t live without now are the Pelican ModaVi Bags & Eakin Freeseal.

Managing social situations

Leaving the house for the first time after returning home from the hospital can feel pretty daunting. My advice is not to wait too long, and to only do what you’re comfortable with. For me, my first outing was about two weeks after surgery, just a quick trip to a local cafe for tea and cake. It can take a while to feel comfortable in social situations again, so go at your own pace and surround yourself with friends or family who understand if you need a little extra time. And, as I mentioned before, once you feel confident in the products you’re using, you’ll feel more at ease going out without the worry of your bag leaking.

Seek support

Sometimes, speaking with others who understand can be the best medicine. Whether its online or in-person at a stoma support group, we’re all here to help you along the way! Pelican has a library full of blogs on different topics which can be so beneficial and reassuring when you need a bit of help. Remember my dms on Instagram are always open so if you need anything just drop me a message!! (summers_stoma)

Adjusting to life with a stoma is a journey that takes time, patience, and self-compassion. Remember, each small step you take is progress toward thriving in your new normal. Whether it’s finding the right products that make you feel secure, building confidence in social situations, or simply celebrating the small wins, every effort counts. Surround yourself with supportive people, lean on the resources available, and reach out to others who understand. You’re not alone on this path—there’s a whole community cheering you on, ready to help you embrace this new chapter with confidence and self-love.

Summer
@summers_stoma